“I believe my purpose is to bring joy to people, to make them laugh, and to share my story to help them. To show people that no matter what, they matter, and they can succeed. No matter how bad things go, no matter how dark your life is, there is a reason for it. You can find beauty in it, and you can get better. I know, because I’ve done it. That’s why my comedy so often comes from my pain. In my life, and I hope in yours, I want us to grow roses out of the poop.” – 3.5/5 stars!
Attention! This book contains: comedy nights, domestic abuse, car accidents, groupons, bar mitzvahs, reading difficulties, pimps, celebrities, marriages, parties, free bags, foster care system, pain, growth and success.
Placed in the foster care system as a teen, and struggling to read at a basic level in ninth grade, Haddish found that humor and jokes helped her endure. When offered a choice between the Laugh Factory comedy camp or counseling to help recover from issues within the foster system, she chose the former and found her calling. In her first book, Haddish recounts her early life straight through to her powerhouse success both on the comedy circuit and in Hollywood with the 2017 film Girls Trip.
Wow, Tiffany went through a lot in her life. I never knew much about her other than what I saw in a few interviews in random talk shows, but to me she always came across as a very funny and humble person. After reading this book I found out she had a very difficult life – not only growing up, but also as an adult -, which surprised me because she always looks so positive and happy. She went through some crazy things, but it’s really inspiring to me how she always kept her smile and kept going to overcome her problems.
But even though I love her and I think she’s hilarious, I wish her book was just as amazing. First off, I will say I understand the many bad reviews this book has. Throughout the book, Tiffany uses her comedian humour to go through her good and bad life experiences, but her humour can sometimes come across as insensitive. There are some chapters in this book that not everyone is going to enjoy – like for example, the Roscoe chapter. This chapter in particular will rub off a lot of people the wrong way, and I completely understand it. I personally don’t think she comes from a bad place when she is telling some of these stories so I didn’t get angry about what she said, but I know not everyone is going to enjoy this book for her choice of words. So keep that in mind if you decide to read this book, because you may find some of the things she says offensive and problematic.
Another big thing for me was the pacing and timeline of the book. I felt like the book was lacking in structure, connection and depth. Some chapters were composed by really random stories that had no connection with each other, some stories required some more depth and the timeline got very confusing. Overall, the quality of how the book was put together did not impress me, and unfortunately that reflects on my rating.
Other than that, I thought the book was very funny. I just kept laughing and thinking “this girl is absolutely crazy” the entire time. Of course there are happier stories in here, but there are a lot of sad stories like the story of her ex-husband. I would say the bar mitzvah old man story and the pimp story were two of my favorites – I almost peed my pants laughing at the end of this last one! Another thing I liked is how honest she is in her book. For a celebrity book, she was bold to be this honest! But I appreciate the authenticity of her words.
I listened to the audiobook version and I loved it because she is the narrator. I’m not sure I would like the book as much if I read the digital/physical copy, because the audiobook version feels very authentic. It’s like your friend is telling you her crazy stories, so it feels like a casual and relaxed conversation. I would definitely recommend the audiobook version.
Tiffany is a very humble, strong person. She definitely deserves her success and recognition.